When it comes to love, sex is a big part of it. Love will not survive without it. Having intimate relations can be fun and light, or passionate and romantic. It can also be casual and purely for pleasure.
However, when romance is no longer present, that is when things get tricky. If you are ever in a relationship where there is little to no intimacy, then it may be time to consider breaking up.
You should give each other some space before ending your partnership. But if you want to keep this person, here are eight ways to gain sexual attraction.
These tips will help bring back the passion you once had for one another, and hopefully make them feel wanted again.
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Confidence is one of the most attractive traits for people. If you are always aware of your looks, then other people will notice this and want to be around you!
If you think that you do not have any attractiveness, then that could be why you don’t feel comfortable in the situation. Believe in yourself and know that you are beautiful enough.
And while it may sound cliché, being positive makes you seem more likable. People enjoy watching someone who enjoys their life, so keep enjoying yours!
Another way to gain confidence is by learning how to flirt. Knowing what to say and when to say it can make you feel much better about yourself and your ability to attract attention.
Blow off some steam by practicing flirting with yourself or with friends. When you feel relaxed and comfortable, then you will look more natural.
Be honest with yourself and ask if there are things that contribute to your lack of attraction. Is it because you worry about losing control during sex? Or maybe you fear you won’t find anyone else who wants the same thing as you?
Whatever the case may be, work on changing them and finding a solution to fix the problem. You deserve to love yourself fully, and that will go a long way toward giving you the self-confidence that you desire.
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If you want your love life to take off, then start by being more romantic. What does that mean? It means greeting each other with a warm smile and expression, complimenting each other openly, and doing things like holding hands or kissing for extended periods of time.
Being romantic is also referring to expressing how much you care for someone else through actions and words. When she’s crying, tell her it’s because she’s beautiful. When he looks tired, ask him if there’s anything you can do to help. Make sure his needs are met – whether it’s personal grooming, food, or sleep.
It’s not just about paying attention to each other, it’s about giving each other emotional attention as well.
This could be telling each other what you’ve been thinking about all day, going out for a meal together, taking an activity night out, etc. Being romantic is not only making a good impression but showing interest in one another outside of bedroom duties.
Communicate your interest
It’s great to be attracted to someone, but before you can make love to each other, you have to know that they are interested in making love to you. And we all know that sex is an intimate thing so it really comes down to them wanting sex as much or even more than you do.
The way to increase your level of sexual attraction is by communicating how you feel about them and showing signs that you enjoy being with them. If you see something sexy, admire something about them, or give them meaningful glances, then go ahead and add those things to your repertoire.
If you want to gain their attention, show some interest in them! Don’t wait for them to initiate conversation or touch you, get into the habit of putting out signals that you are interested. A simple kiss is enough to start the ball rolling.
Do not take things too far
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If you feel uncomfortable or that your partner is not responding, back off! This is very important to do because it can easily turn into an uncomfortable situation for you or them.
You do not want to force intimacy on someone who does not want it, so if you are wanting sex then ask yourself how willing they are to have it at this moment.
If they say they are not, let them know that you desire some kind of intimate contact with them and see if they’re open to doing something different later.
This could be kissing, holding hands, having sex in the future, or anything else! Sometimes we get nervous when sexual activity is involved and need time to warm up.
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Reassuring your loved one that they are wanted and needed is a great way to gain their trust again. If you notice them acting nervous, or feeling uncomfortable, ask if there is something specific they want or need before offering to do it for them.
This could be having sex, kissing, or just staying close to you until they feel comfortable enough. By being aware of behaviors, you can make an assessment and take action correctly!
By using these tips, you will see positive changes in how your love partner feels about themselves and you as partners. They’ll begin trusting you more easily too!
Given that sexual attraction is both chemical and psychological, trying these strategies out is a good place to start when wanting to rekindle intimacy with your lover.
Play up your sensuality
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Being more aware of how you look can help you gain sexual attraction and desire for your partner. If you love kissing, then make sure your lips are looking their best!
Take time to apply some lip gloss or use natural oils to refresh yours. Natural oils such as coconut oil and olive oil work beautifully to rehydrate dry skin which may be causing your luscious lips to feel tight.
You can also try sticking your fingers in the mouth as someone else might do so. Some people enjoy having saliva on their tongue, while other people find it gross – but an interesting experiment!
Having healthy sex organs is another way to show off your intimate side and contribute to your intimacy with your partner. Make sure your genitalia are well-groomed and clean.
Use sex as a way to get to know your partner
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Finding intimacy is not easy, but it is possible if you work at it. Intimacy is about sharing thoughts and feelings with someone else, so instead of using sex as a way to end or start a conversation, use it to connect with your significant other.
Become aware of their emotions and what makes them feel good or bad. When they are happy, ask them how they got there and try to replicate that feeling.
When they are upset, understand why they are angry and find ways to make them happier. Try talking, doing something together, or just holding each other until they calm down!
Sex can be a great way to achieve this, but only if done right. Having casual, quick sex will never help you gain intimacy with your partner.
Casual sex is too self-focused and doesn’t allow for true connection. It may also hurt their feelings since they will want more than what you give easily.
Take time to enjoy intimate touches, kiss, hold hands, and explore various positions to truly bring out the best in your relationship.