Intimacy is hard! Sometimes you have to be willing to be vulnerable in order to have a strong and long lasting relationship with your partner. That’s why it’s good to ask them questions.
Here we have some of our top suggestions for questions (sex questions) that you can ask your partner.
These questions should help you get closer to your partner and I bet you won’t expect the responses from some of the questions.
Their answers may surprise you!
Tell your partner what you like to do for sex
Before asking questions you should be honest with your partner about how you have sexual relations. This can include toys, role-playing, oral sex, and intercourse.
It’s important to tell each other which of these things you enjoy and would prefer to do without criticism. It also helps prevent feelings of jealousy or resentment if one person wants to pursue a particular type of activity while the other does not.
The more aware each of you are of each other’s preferences, the better chance there is at maintaining a healthy relationship.
A couple may choose to engage in different activities but have equal relationships with each other. However, this isn’t always the case. Despite both liking swimming, someone may find it difficult to wear a bikini at the beach due to a past experience where they were made uncomfortable by people seeing their skin.
Whether you feel comfortable sharing your desires with your partner or not, doing so often creates a healthier environment.
Ask your partner what they like to do for sex
Now here comes the question, and be prepared for their answer! Whatever it may be!
However, there are many people in heterosexual relationships who feel more comfortable with their partners knowing about their sex life.
If you are new to having multiple orgasms, it can be helpful to share this experience with your partner. It can help them understand what is normal and what isn’t for you.
But make sure to discuss which questions they will ask, how often they will ask these questions, and whether any personal details such as pain levels should be omitted.
Also consider what kind of reactions you would have (if anything) and if there are other people around who might overhear or could change what works for you.
Ask your partner if they are willing to try new things
It’s important to share your sexuality with your partner, whether you want to have sex or not. By asking questions, you can learn more about your partner, their desires, and what turns them on.
If someone doesn’t feel like having sex, that is fine as well. We all have our own limits, and it is okay to say that we don’t want to have sex anymore.
It is also good to ask sexual questions for fun. If one person wants to have sex, but the other does not, there is no pressure for the non-sexist couple to agree to have sex too.
We can always play games or take activities that help us experience each other’s bodies and words. Spend time physically expressing how you feel through cuddling, hugging, kissing, holding hands, and/or taking advantage of every free moment to touch each other.
Above all else, keep communication open. Don’t worry about weirdos who talk about their feelings in odd ways.
Have you always been adventurous?
Even if one person is more traditionally “versatile” than the other, this doesn’t mean that they are not also sexually satisfied.
It also doesn’t mean that that is necessarily what they want! But it is good to ask the question.
There is no definitive way for one person to be more sexually satisfying than another. In fact, most people who argue about how to have sex consider both partners as being happy with their experience.
It can help matters between two compatible individuals to ask each other questions related to sexual satisfaction. This can allow them to learn more about each other and what things feel good or bad to you.
Both partners should be asked about specific acts they enjoy and/or ones that hurt. Let your partner know what feels good and what hurts and which parts of these activities please you.
Then, let them do the same and see what they like and dislike. Try talking earlier in the relationship and then bring any concerns you have at checkups.
Doctors are trained to detect sexual disorders and possible complications. If something bothers you, tell him
Do you like to be asked for sex?
Many people think that women enjoy being begged during sexual encounters, but men have desires too. It’s only natural that they would want to feel wanted and enjoyed.
Some people believe that men are more visual when it comes to having sex; therefore, he wants it pretty much any way he can get it. He may watch porn and be fine with being abused or taken advantage of as long as he gets what he wants.
He may also ask about your needs and try his best to meet them. There is no fix relationship where both people are happy with what they got. You either met your need or yours, and you put value in each other’s.
That is how relationships work. Value the person you love and don’t worry about valueing their partner. No one has all the nice things that happen to them.
Try asking your partner if you enjoy giving or receiving head. Most men do prefer oral sex so there is nothing wrong with wanting it.
There are ways to pleasure her without going back for seconds.
Do you like to give oral sex?
Oral sex is not always considered kissing or sexual intercourse. Some may refer to it as receiving oral lovetreats, oral romance, or oral pleasure.
It involves stimulating your partner’s genitals with yours or using mouth props such as clamps or rings to grip the penis (or female genital area). An entire eroticism can flourish from this one act!
However, many argue that oral sex is very intimate and personal. Everyone has their own limits when it comes to oral gratification.
You should feel comfortable “going down” on your partner and enjoy it for yourself rather than making him or her feel uncomfortable. Read some of our favorite articles about oral sex here.
But if you want to learn more about giving oral sex, these articles are perfect!
Do you wish your partner gave you oral sex?
Oral sex is an intimate act that involves two partners doing different things for the pleasure of both. Many people have sexual desires regarding having their partner perform oral sex on them, but only few make it a habit to ask how their significant other would feel about giving this kind of touch.
Most men are not used to performing oral sex, so making your husband do so can be very frustrating and embarrassing for him. In fact, he may think she doesn’t like it or find it disgusting.
Your role as his wife should always strive to respect her feelings and opinions. It will also strengthen your relationship
Do you experience orgasms?
There’s a good chance that you will have an orgasm during sex, but this is not always the case. Many people develop strategies around lovemaking that usually help them achieve climax.
However, some individuals may struggle to arrive at sexual arousal or reach orgasm, which can be a sign of a medical condition or personal preference.
If your partner cannot reach orgasm, that may also be a factor in choosing whether or not to use condoms or engage in other safety measures.
Many men find it difficult to ejaculate and come quickly. This is because they may have issues with control over their erection or needing lots of stimulation to trigger a response.
They may need assistance from a professional to learn how to make their woman feel satisfied without coming too easily.