What does it mean to give someone head?
Oral sex is a work of passion. Sharing such intimate moments with another person requires physical and mental involvement. But what does it mean to give someone head? You may not be a fan of sucking dick, but when it comes to giving him fellatio, do it to your best.
The norm is to give head using the mouth and sometimes taking the penis deep to the throat level. The aim of sucking depends on an earlier agreement and intimacy levels between the two parties. Notably, the lady can swallow or spit the cum.
Understanding the male anatomy
The penis has a sensitive part that triggers the man’s deep sensations when you play with it well. You see, the top section or the glans has striking similarities with a woman’s clitoris. When both of you are close to orgasm, the excitement passing through the two distinct organs is stunning.
Another similarity of these two organs is the sensitivity that comes after attaining orgasm, even the way women who have seen many orgasms will instinctively push the partner’s hand away due to increased sensitivity to touch.
I am sure you want your man’s dick to have a similar feeling after a passionate suck, right? You need to bring him closer to cumming to increase the sensitivity at the tip of his penis. However, right after cumming, it will be the most painful part of his body at that time, and he will most likely stop you.
Once you understand the concept behind his glans sensitivity, you will appreciate that giving someone head is an art as well. You need to stop rubbing and massaging once he cums unless you want to ruin his orgasm. When you stop playing with the tip let it rest inside your mouth.
A quick tip: watch as he climaxes and time his ejaculation by slowing down everything and licking the tip softly, kissing, and caressing the penis using your tongue, lips, and mouth.
Taking everything slowly at this point gives him time to recover from that powerful orgasm without experiencing any pain.
Now that you have an overview of what to expect, you can learn some other techniques to give him oral that will blow his mind.
To spit or swallow
Pre-cum has a salty taste. Since you are the one giving head, the choice of what you do with his dick and contents remains with you. Once in your mouth you can decide whether to swallow or spit. You can never be wrong or right with your decision. Just go with your preference.
If you spit his cum, there is no harm. However, try swallowing and see if you can get to love the taste of cum. Swallowing to maintain that erotic atmosphere is a plus. Some men love it when they see you swallowing.
However, if you do not like the taste, be creative. Mask it by taking something tasty in your mouth.
Use Your Hands
Your mouth is moist, and if you notice a change in his breathing, that is an indication he is close to orgasm. A great way to avoid taking his cum is to finish him off by giving him a handjob.
Softly grab the shaft near the top where the glans is. Move your hand in a fast up-down movement, deliberately looking at his reactions. At this time, make sure your fingers wrap around the shaft while the other hand gently rubs his head.
Make him scream or groan more by alternating the hand between cupping his balls until he climaxes. Let go of your grip the moment he flows but maintain a weak grip around the shaft while giving slow strokes. Slowing down the strokes gives him maximum pleasure with minimum pain.
Let Him Paint Your Body
An alternative to finishing off your partner is to allow him to splash on your body using any of the following techniques.
- The Pearl Necklace
While on your knees, let him ejaculate and drop his cum on your neck. You will see something close to a ring round your neck, thus the name.
- Body Painting
Once you notice that he is about to orgasm, set yourself free, and let him explore all the exciting parts that turn him on. Let him play with your breasts, ass, back, and feet.
Go for facials if you want an intense experience in a submissive affair because a facial defines the erotic moment when giving your man head. You simply let the man ejaculate all over your face. The facials technique is something that you do because it turns you on. It should be something that you always wanted to try with him.
Always close your eyes when exposing yourself to facials to avoid the stinging cum from getting into your eyes. You can grab him and direct his penis to your face.
- Lock-on to His Eyes
Make eye contact when giving him head. It is an intimate experience because men love oral sex. Use the eyes to be sensual and connect to him by staring straight and deep at him the moment he starts cumming.
You can choose to be submissive and watch him from below as he squirms while holding his shaft. Looking at him from a lower position defines dominance as he writhes because of what you are doing with your mouth.
How to tell when the man is about to cum
One of the most important things when giving head is planning your timing perfectly. It is important to know when he is about to ejaculate. Below are a few common signs:
- Keenly listen to the change in his breathing pattern because as he nears, quick and short breaths accompany the breathing.
- Note the tension building up in his body. Place a hand on his stomach or one of his fingers to feel him tense up.
- Some men will be more vocal as they reach orgasm. Some remain quiet but with vigorous body movements.
- Watch out for his twitching cock as he gets very close to cumming.
The body signs men give during orgasm are somewhat similar to what women feel as they reach orgasm.
Whichever methods you decide to finish off with, do not leave room for assumptions. Talk to the man and let him say what he feels. Oral sex needs a connection to make your sex life great. Communicate how you feel even when he is the one receiving because sex should be mutual.
Can you imagine him doing the body splash without prior agreement? Some of these things are more fun when there is mutual consent between the parties. Experimenting is the best way to learn as long as what you are doing is safe. Remember not to do anything that you are uncomfortable with.
What do I do with the foreskin?
Do not change the plan just because of his foreskin. Move the skin synchronously with your hand. When you want the gland, pull the skin down to expose the top of the head.
How do I avoid gagging?
Some men may like gagging because they are not the ones giving. Avoid it by rolling your tongue on the top side of your mouth to block the throat.
Do I have to deep throat?
Deep-throating is an option and depends on your excitement levels. You can still give him the best show without necessarily taking him that deep.
What do I do if my mouth starts aching?
Alternate between your hands and mouth to make sucking more fun.
Why is he so quiet?
The only way you can ruin his moment is by biting his dick. Analyze his non-verbal language and look at how he responds to pleasure. Observe writhing, heavy breathing, and thrusting action.
Do not let worry take over, ask if he is feeling okay because it could be the icebreaker.
What do I do when I feel like stopping?
Stop the moment you feel like. It may have been the shortest sucking session, maybe as a precursor to something even better.
Can I add sex toys to the head game?
If he consents, then do it slowly and apply a lot of lube. Tease him using the tip of a butt plug while you lick the penis tip and stroke it for extra pleasure.
How do I keep teeth out of the game?
True, this is not a biting game. Focus on giving him the best blowjob by putting his penis between your lips and tongue. Naturally, the teeth disappear in the background.
So what does it mean to give someone head? The idea is to make the head giving session mutually satisfying. You are the one in control when you go down on him. Have fun with his penis as you enjoy your newfound power over him.