Finding love after marriage can feel tricky at times. It takes work, effort, and understanding of your relationship as a couple before you realize that you are truly in it for the long haul.

That is not to say that there won’t be tough days or that things will never get ugly – we all experience difficult moments once in a while!

But when those hard times do occur, make an effort to stay romantic with each other. Give each other special attention, treat yourself to something nice, and try to enjoy this time together.

You both deserve some kind of reward for putting so much effort into staying committed to one another. Plus, if you are able to remain passionate and intimate during these times, it may help you keep the passion going longer term.

Keep up the romance by doing things together

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Staying romantic is not just for when you are in a relationship, it is an everyday thing that can be broken down into some basic rules. It is important to keep those relationships strong by spending time together outside of the bedroom.

Give each other attention, and make sure your partner knows they matter more than anything else. Talk about how well you both do your jobs as parents, talk about what makes you happy as a person, and ask about their life.

If there’s something your friend or loved one wants, go get it for them! Or even better, pay for it so they don’t have to.

When you’re apart from each other, stay in contact either via phone, text, chat, or whatever method you use to communicate with people.

Continue to show affection for each other and do little things like holding hands while walking or sitting close during movies. All these small touches mean a lot to your bond as a couple.

Give each other massages

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Aromatherapy is a lovely way to start your day together as a couple. Both of you can use natural oils to help relax and refresh yourself.

Many people add lavender oil to pillows or mattresses to promote sleep. You can also try adding some to your bath to enjoy while in there!

By using these products, not only will they smell nice, but they’ll also have special effects. Some oils work by relaxing muscles and slowing down breathing, which helps you feel relaxed and sleepy.

There are many brands that offer aromatherapy sets that include different-sized bottles of essential oils. In fact, most department stores sell them at very affordable prices.

Do fun things together

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While having sex is always a good start, staying romantic is much more than that. Having some kind of activity you do as a couple every day or every week is important for keeping the relationship strong.

You can do anything as long as it’s not too expensive and doesn’t require too much effort. Some easy ideas include going out for coffee or taking a short walk outside or around the neighborhood.

Having dinner at your house is also a great option since you both don’t have to go anywhere else afterward. If one person in the couple cooks, they can prepare whatever they want!

If you’re feeling creative, try doing something new like baking or painting with ingredients and colors you’ve never used before. Both people could be learning something new while showing off their skills to each other.

Try new things together

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When you get married, you typically go with what you know. You are probably not very adventurous unless you have done something like skydiving before.

If you never tried kissing other people, then there is a lot of potential beauty in that! If you both enjoy doing things such as going to the beach or swimming, great!

But if you’re both more romantic at heart, then try some new things. These can be simple activities like holding hands while walking up the stairs or jumping into bed for a nightcap.

The thing about staying intimate with someone is that you need to bring it from somewhere within yourself. It takes work, effort, and energy to stay passionate about intimacy.

Do not get too routine

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Changing your hairstyle, buying new clothes, or staying in a relationship for money are all great ways to stay romantic with your spouse. But if these things become too frequent, then it can be difficult to maintain that spark.

If you notice yourself doing them more often than before, stop! It’s important to remember that relationships take work and investment. You have to keep trying at it every day until it feels natural.

It may help to think of this as spending time together. If you spend an hour together, why not make it special by having lunch or going to a movie instead of watching TV?

The same goes for tiring after sex. Why not leave the bed and go straight shower-wash your hair and face? Save those nights when you feel like sleeping alone just because there is no one else around.

Ask your partner how they feel

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It’s great being in love, but it is also important to stay romantic with your significant other. When you are no longer spending time together outside of the bedroom, ask how they are doing!

Ask about their day, what they were doing, if they had any fun, try to do something special with them, or at least call them to see how things went.

If there’s one thing that most married couples can agree on, it’s that they would like to stay connected even after sex. Having sex is totally fine, but staying awake afterward is not!

Why? Because sex takes energy and passion, and when those start to fade, so does anything else.

Staying in touch will help keep your relationship strong. You’ll find that different life commitments get adjusted as needed, and romance can survive this.

Tell your partner how much you love them

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When your life as a couple changes, it can feel like there’s no way to stay connected.

Staying romantic after the marriage takes work but, with the right effort, it is possible!

The first step in staying romantic is acknowledging that things have changed. You’ve gotten married so of course your relationship has changed, but that doesn’t mean you need to stop showing your loved one affection.

Make an extra effort to do something special for your spouse every day. Take them out to lunch or dinner at a nice restaurant once a week. If they’re home during the week, take advantage of opportunities to connect by having breakfast or watching a movie together before each person goes their separate ways.

Avoid overdoing it though; too many gestures can seem forced. Keep it natural and don’t get distracted by other activities.

Another easy way to keep the romance going is to make time just for yourself. Let your husband know that this is important to you and ask if they would be willing to do the same. Having private time will help you both reconnect.