Let him lead
Once you get to know each other better, let the physical contact be your guide. If he holds your hand in public, lets it linger too long, or rub his own hand over your thigh, you may have crossed some lines for the both of you.
Know when it’s time to take it slow and steady. A couple of months into dating may not be the right time to start sharing secrets with someone. It is however, the perfect moment to share your hopes, dreams, and fears with him.
Maybe you plan to travel together someday? Or maybe you’re facing a job change or career transition? Tell him so you two are on the same page.
Also tell him if anything major happens to you (like getting fired or moving back home), he needs to know about it before you give him a call.
It helps to write out what you want to say ahead of time instead of saying everything all at once.
Lean on his shoulder
Men are not used to sharing their emotional space. If you want to be close to your boyfriend, you will have to give up your walled garden (of feelings) and try to lean on him more than usual.
This can mean leaning in for simple conversations or just being together in general.
It also means that if he wants to talk about something serious, you need to be able to listen and care.
There is a very thin line between helping him feel supported and taking over his life.
You should only lean on him when you think it’s needed.
Rest your head on his arm
This is one of the easiest ways to show your boyfriend that you love him. In fact, it’s one of the most basic things you can do to demonstrate your feelings for someone.
By resting your head on your partner’s shoulder, you are showing him that you trust him and want to be close to him.
Also, by lying together like this, you will know when he comes home and needs something by being near him. You will also feel loved knowing that he is holding you.
This action takes only a few seconds and is very easy to perform. I have two boys and they both were taught early how to treat their women.
The next time you get into a bed or sit down together, try doing this once without talking and then with words if needed. Feel free to use more complicated tricks such as giving each other bone or pajamas.
Words aren’t always necessary, but just in case they are!
Give him a kiss
More often than not, a man’s first reaction to someone trying to get close to him is that he doesn’t want to be bothered. He will try to dodge you or avoid making time for you.
This can make things difficult for both of you. You won’t know when he’s busy until you ask, and if you don’t think to ask then he could easily go without saying no.
A lot of men feel like they have to do something just because they want to; like eat food, drink alcohol, or watch movies. They don’t need a reason other than wanting to.
If your boyfriend seems nervous or anxious about something, then he might be ready to romance you. Try asking him what’s bothering him and why. If you don’t understand something, then ask him to explain more in detail.
Try to listen to his answers and put himself in his shoes before asking questions. A guy who wants to romantically advance with you needs to trust you enough to tell you what he thinks of you.
He should also make sure you’re willing to deal with any problems that may arise from us showing our feelings for each other.
Tell him you love him
Now, don’t go over-board and throw your arms around his neck but do tell him you love him whenever it is necessary. He will know that you care if you show it.
Don’t make up things like “you always put me off” or “I never knew you were feeling that way.”
Tell him how much you miss him when you are separated and that you wish you could take the time to really talk about these feelings but there just isn’t enough time in the day.
Ask him questions like what he likes most about having you for a girlfriend? What were your thoughts going into this? Was there something you wanted to say before but didn’t know how?
Talk to each other more than you talk to others so that nothing pops out at both of you unexpected!
Romance takes work, people. It requires trust, confidence, and communication. Think back on times when you were young and needed help romancing a boy. What worked then should work now.
Try turning down his requests for fear of making him think twice about asking again. Men are very visual and putting up defenses can prevent yourself from being able to look more attractive.
Ask him to tell you about his dreams
Dreaming is an ancient form of storytelling that happens in our mind when we sleep. It’s a common way for us to interpret feelings, run through scenarios or solve problems.
Many people feel more comfortable telling stories from their own lives, but someone can also be dreaming about coming face to face with a villain from a classic novel or story from history.
The next time you try to get closer to your boyfriend, take some time to ask him what he dreamt about. He may even tell you it was something silly, like losing sight of himself in a mirror. But if you listen carefully, you might learn something very important.
In his dream, maybe he heard a message from his inner self saying “Take me seriously. I love you.” Or if he dreamed that he saw a villain from a book or movie, perhaps he is feeling overwhelmed by a friendship.
He could be struggling to balance his affection for you with other relationships, work responsibilities or even past mistakes he felt guilty over. By learning how to pay attention to what he says and reads as well as what he feels, you will begin to understand him better.
Ask him about his hobbies
One way to learn more about your boyfriend is to ask around people who know him. People will talk about their experiences with him.
You can also ask what he likes, does not like and his favorite things. If you don’t already know your boyfriend, you may have to draw out this information from him through conversation or gestures.
He might be the most interesting person that you meet!
Another good option is talking with other people about him. For example, if they see something special about him, you could start a conversation by asking them how they feel about him.
These are great ways to find out more personal information about someone you care about.
Ask him what he is worried about
Men are very sensitive about their appearance, including their bodies. From shaving his facial hair to removing rings from his fingers, men worry about how they look and feel.
To help him with this, ask him what things make him uncomfortable or nervous. This can be anything from looking too clean to wearing pants.
If you notice that he has any doubts about his looks, try your best to reassure him. Tell him that you love him and think he’s beautiful no matter what.
It may take some time for him to realize it, but there might already be something wrong with his body. If you don’t know where to start, then let me give you a few tips.
We usually associate our feelings of self–confidence versus insecurity with puberty, but it continues into adulthood. There are several reasons why boys sometimes struggle with feeling good about themselves, so if you understand these reasons, you can better address them with your boyfriend.
He could be experiencing anxiety around his appearance, which would be a separate issue to deal with. You can certainly check up on him to see if he’s okay, but keep in mind that people can detect concern in others at very young ages.
He could have been bullied because of his appearance, which would also need addressing.
Romance is about caring
Many women worry about their partners, mostly because they feel that they do not measure up or want them to be happy. This is very hard for some men to understand or accept.
But your boyfriend should know that you care enough to worry about him.
It isn’t any fun if one person worries while the other ends up feeling relaxed. A lot of relationships fall apart because of this reason alone.
If he doesn’t think you care too much, then maybe he needs to learn how to tell you what he wants. It can take more than just words to show someone that you care.
Romance takes work! But it also takes effort. Any relationship will suffer if you don’t put in the work. Don’t assume it will all happen by itself.
Put yourself out there and let yourself feel like a fool from time to time. That’s if it works anyway.
Maybe try trying asking him why he gets frustrated with you sometimes. Try to keep those moments to a minimum so he feels comfortable sharing things with you.
Try going back to talking about music and dreams again. You could even give him a call to see how he’s doing. Maybe work on planning fun activities together.
Ask him about his childhood days and help him talk about them. Keep communication open and never make excuses as to why you need space.