Introduction

Anal sex can seem intimidating to many people, especially because it has a stigma of being very painful, for both men and women.

And it’s true, at least to a certain extent. It’s difficult to start out with anal play and not experience pain in some form.

This is especially true the first time you try to insert something, whether it’s a toy or a partner’s fingers.

But there are many ways to prepare for anal sex and make the experience as painless as possible.

There are many people who enjoy anal sex regularly, as a normal part of their sex life. But it definitely takes some practice to get to that point.

Having anal sex successfully will require plenty of practice and lots of communication between you and your chosen partner.

The rest of this article will examine how to have comfortable anal sex by preparing as best you can and communicating with your partner as often as possible.

Lubricant

No matter what the situation and who is involved, if you’re going to be trying anal sex, lubricant needs to be involved. It’s an absolute must.

While the vagina naturally lubricates itself in response to arousal, the anus isn’t designed for sex and so doesn’t do anything like this.

But that’s not a big problem. Just buy some lube ahead of time and make sure that you have plenty ready to go.

It can also be a good idea to warm the lubricant in your hands before applying it to any body parts or try a warming lubricant, such as Mood Warming Lubricant.

You should apply lube both to the anal opening and whatever will be entering it, whether it’s a penis, fingers, or a sex toy.

Lube can’t guarantee a completely painless experience with anal play, but it can certainly make things a lot easier than they would be without it.

Even if you’ll be using a lubricated condom, you should still have some additional lubricant ready to go.

Communication

Communication is important in every relationship, but it can be especially important when trying something new in the bedroom.

If you and your partner have been considering trying anal sex, then chances are you won’t be trying it out the same night that it’s been introduced as a possibility.

And if you are considering trying it the same night, you probably shouldn’t.

If one or both of you are new to the experience of anal play, then it’s definitely not something to start into without talking about it first.

Plan Ahead

If you or your partner is interested in trying anal sex, make sure that both of you are interested in the idea.

If one person simply doesn’t want to try it, then don’t press the matter. It’s important to respect their preferences and not force them into anything they don’t want to do.

If someone is willing to engage in anal sex just to please their partner, it will only make the situation more comfortable for both of you.

But if you’re both on board with the idea, then it’s time to do some planning.

It’s definitely not a good idea to jump straight into full-on anal sex. The receiver should try other forms of anal play before that stage, which we’ll discuss in more detail a bit later.

You should also make sure to buy all the necessary supplies. As we already mentioned, that should include lubricant, condoms, and potentially some anal sex toys that can be used in preparation.

Talk Through It

But communication isn’t just about talking to your partner beforehand, it’s also about talking while attempting anal sex.

If you’re not used to talking during sex, then it may seem strange at first, but letting your partner know how you’re feeling and what adjustments you might need to make can help the entire experience go much more smoothly.

We should also mention here that if either person wants to stop in the middle of the attempt, then you both need to stop immediately.

Even with plenty of preparation, the experience can still be very painful, and if either person is in a significant amount of pain, then it’s time to stop.

From there, it will be up to both of you to decide whether or not you want to try again in the future.

Using Toys

So now let’s talk about some toys that can be used in preparation for anal sex or as part of anal sex itself.

We will include a few of our recommendations for each of these types of toys, but if you’re still unsure what you’d like to try for yourself, visit a local sex shop, where the employees will be able to give you more detailed advice.

Butt Plugs

Butt plugs are a great way to get started with anal play, and they also tend to be fairly inexpensive.

Like many other sex toys, they come in a wide variety of styles and sizes, and the ones you choose will ultimately be up to you.

This basic model, for example, makes use of a very simple construction. And since it doesn’t contain any electronic components, it’s completely waterproof. The tail also makes it easy to remove once you’re done playing.

This Jelly Plug is meant to be a bit more flexible and easier to manage if you’re a beginner.

Then there’s this slightly more elaborate plug which also works as an anal vibrator. It’s more flexible than the other models, which is also due to to its overall length.

But if you’d prefer something much more elaborate, there are many other styles out there, including plugs with tails attached or faux jewels.

It all comes down to your personal preference in the end.

Dildos/Strapons

If you’re going to be trying pegging with your partner (a female gives anal sex to a male or female by using a strapon dildo) then you’ll need a harness and an anal dildo.

These come in a variety of styles, and it’s important to make sure that you’re both comfortable with the chosen toys before getting started.

This beginner’s set keeps the size of the dildo relatively small, making things a bit easier for anyone who is inexperienced.

Then there’s a completely different style of strap-on called a strapless strapon, like this one here.

Instead of attaching to the user by hanging from a harness, the toy is all one piece, and a small portion is inserted in the vagina. From there, it can be used just like a normal strapon.

Clean Up First

So if and partner have already planned ahead and you’ve already gathered all the supplies you’ll need, then you’re just about ready to go.

But another important step of preparation is for everyone involved to take a nice long shower ahead of time.

This is a good idea for any kind of sex, but it can be especially important when attempting anal sex.

Take some time to make sure that you’re as clean as can be before having sex with your partner. And if you both want to shower together, it can make for some exciting foreplay before getting started.

Practice, Practice, Practice

And lastly, it’s important to accept the fact that it’s rare for everything to go exactly right on the first try.

Anal sex can be difficult at times, and if you and your partner are having difficulties, do your best to keep yourself from becoming frustrated.

And if it’s just not working out after several attempts, then you can stop trying for the evening. You can always try again later, and now that you have a better idea of what to expect, you may be able to try a few different methods.

If you and your partner try anal sex on several different occasions and it just doesn’t work out, there’s no shame in giving up on the idea entirely. It may just not be for you.

Closing

In closing, we’d just like to say that the most important thing is how much you and your partner are enjoying yourselves.

If you both stand to benefit from trying anal sex, then, by all means, you should give it a try.

And if you don’t have any special feelings about and just feel pressured by friends or others to try it and you don’t expect to enjoy it very much, then there’s no shame in walking away from the idea.

But if you’re determined to try anal sex and your partner is on board, then it’s important to prepare as well as you can before making an attempt.

Some of the accessories that we recommended in this article can offer great solutions to problems you might encounter, but you may also want to consult with a local sex shop that will be able to point you in the right direction.

Never feel too ashamed to ask for help. There’s nothing inherently bad or immoral about anal sex as long as you and your partner are willing. Thank you for reading this guide on how to have comfortable anal sex, we hope you have found it useful!