Finding new ways to please
If you’re in the mood to try some new and exotic things to do in bed with your partner, then you should follow your instincts.
You should also read through the rest of this article so that you can keep a few different kinky ideas up your sleeve for a future rainy day.
Let’s all keep in mind that the most exotic kinks are just the ones you haven’t tried yet. Looking for new sexual horizons can be a lot of fun, and even when you think you’ve discovered all of your favorite kinks, there are always more to be found.
As a bit of an intro, we’d like to say that you should never feel pressured to try a specific kink or new sexual activity, even if it’s generally popular, or even if your partner has been pushing for it recently.
You’ve heard this before, but we’re all very different, especially when it comes to our sexual preferences, and making things even more interesting is how we’re constantly changing.
While you grow as a person, you also might find that your sexual tastes have changed as well.
So even if you go through our list of exotic sexual activities and feel intimidated by a few of them, your feelings may shift later on.
There’s no right or wrong when it comes to your very own sexual journey, so listen to your own feelings and listen to what your partner has to say, too.
Now we can move on to the fun part: talking about some kinks and techniques you might want to try in the nights to come.
Invite some toys to the party
We always do our best to be advocates for all that sex toys have to offer, and thankfully we’re also living through a kind of golden age for sex toys.
So many different manufacturers are putting time and care into developing brand new toy styles or improved versions of classic toys whose number one job is to make you feel great.
Just check out this couples’ vibrator that can be controlled remotely to create memorable moments where one partner relinquishes control.
If you’re interested in anal play, this thrusting probe will definitely spice things up with its internal motors.
Beyond toys themselves, there are also now a large number of supplementary supplies that can help enhance the sexual experience, whether you’re with your partner or just having some fun on your own.
Or maybe you’d like to slow yourself down with some delay wipes that will keep you movin’ and groovin’ for a lot longer than usual.
Whatever your specific needs and desires happen to be, there’s probably a product out there ready to help you out.
The mental playground
This suggestion is all about finding new and exciting ways to get your partner and yourself in the mood, whether long before or even during a sexual experience.
It’s a long-running saying that the largest sex organ in the human body is the brain itself since it controls your responses to different stimuli.
If you and your partner would like some new ways to get excited, then you might want to look into psychological foreplay.
Nowadays, this technique can involve texting each other before you actually get into the bedroom, or it can mean engaging in some fun roleplay during sexual experiences.
More specifically, we’d like to recommend a sexual encounter where you and your partner communicate everything to each other.
Sure, couples tend to mention if they need to adjust or if they want to change positions, but here we’re talking about saying anything and everything that comes to mind about the experience.
If everything is feeling pretty good, tell your partner and explain why. Tell them what you want to do next. Tell them how close you’re getting to that big finish.
Communication during sex doesn’t always need to be this rigid and detailed, but it can be an excellent way to achieve a better understanding of very small things that make your partner go wild.
One of the most exotic things you can do with your partner is bed is to challenge yourself and your partner to up your game.
How exactly you do this is ultimately up to you, but some common ways to add a bit more challenge to the moment are to attempt more complicated sexual positions or to reach for much longer sessions.
As for complex positions, just check out this list here to get yourself started. Some of these positions are no joke, but they’re also specifically designed to enhance pleasure for both partners, and with practice, they might even become some of your new all-time favorites.
Moving on to extended play sessions, there are a few different ways to pull this off, but the number one requirement is that you and your partner are both willing to play for a good long while.
Now, if you’re in a male-female relationship or a male-male relationship, all this can mean extending each individual “round” of penetrative sex, which usually requires that the person doing the penetrating extends his duration.
This can be accomplished with some of the delay wipes we were talking about earlier, though there are now also condoms specifically intended to slow down the man’s buildup to orgasm.
But guess what: increasing the length of each “round” is far from the only way to keep the fun going.
Basically, no matter your situation, you can extend sessions simply by continuing to play after any number of orgasms for either partner.
Obviously an orgasm tends to be the most intense part of a sexual experience, but you and your partner can easily follow up these intense moments with lighter and more relaxed play.
For example, you can switch to prolonged oral sex afterward or maybe even some mutual masturbation that lets you both take a bit of a break before launching into another full round.
Lights, camera, action!
Let’s talk about making a sex tape!
Now, of course, in modern times you’re probably not going to be recording your fun times to an actual tape (unless you’re willing to put in some extra effort and you don’t mind the lo-fi look), but the term itself now refers to any kind of recording you and your partner decide to make of your frisky moments.
This is another exotic activity that you should definitely discuss in advance with your partner before actually trying it out.
You don’t want to ambush them with the idea, and you DEFINITELY don’t want to record anything without their consent.
But if you’re both ready to put yourselves on display, then recording a sexual experience can add some serious spice to what otherwise might be a pretty standard encounter.
You can simply use a smartphone or two to record the whole thing, or if you don’t want the risk of having your phone data hacked or shared, then you can record on a separate camera that doesn’t connect to WiFi.
Once you’re recording, you’ll notice there’s something about the idea of being recorded and watched that immediately changes the dynamic in the room.
For many people, this dynamic inspires them to be a bit more enthusiastic than usual, or maybe even a bit more adventurous.
Try not to worry about your performance and how you might look; just focus on your partner and know that later on, you’ll be able to watch this video together and be reminded of how well you fit together.
In the doghouse
Let’s talk about pet play. This kink definitely isn’t for the timid, and we’ll go ahead and say right up front that it’s definitely not everyone’s cup of tea.
Basically, it’s a specific form of roleplay and a specific form of dom/sub play.
In terms of exotic kinks, pet play is easily one of the most adventurous, since it involves one person acting, or sometimes even dressing, like a pet.
If you want, the person in the pet role can wear a tail plug or something similar that adds to the spice.
You can also add some animal ears or even a collar and leash if you’re feeling especially adventurous that day.
As with any kind of sexual power play and domination, it’s very important to communicate effectively beforehand so that everyone knows exactly what the limits are and when they need to pause the play.
But if you and your partner have run out of exciting new sexual activities on your collective wishlist, then pet play can offer a very exciting option to at least try.
So that’s what we have for you today in terms of exotic activities to try out in the bedroom or wherever you and your partner like to play.
Feel free to check out the toy section of our website to get even more ideas and find the toys that speak to you!