Lasting a long time in bed isn’t an absolute necessity, but ultimately it all depends on your own preferences and the preferences of your sexual partner or partners.
If you’ve already had a number of sexual partners, then you’re probably already aware of the range of preferences that can be found in others.
More and more lately, there is a growing sentiment that traditional sex is less enjoyable if it continues for too long. This is especially true for women who don’t tend to reach orgasm via vaginal penetration.
At the same time, there are many who enjoy when sex simply lasts for as long as possible, as it gives them a much better chance of reaching orgasm or just enjoying sex without reaching orgasm at all.
For many men, the issue of minimal sexual stamina can be a major source of anxiety. It can lead to feelings of sexual inadequacy and even feelings of resentment toward their partner, even if their partner has never said that a lack of stamina is a problem.
This is all just to say that creating a direct connection between how long you last in bed and your ability to please your partner is not an especially healthy mindset.
However, if you’re looking to increase your stamina to please your partner or simply as a change of pace, there are many different methods and toys that can help you do just that.
Is there a singular best way to increase sexual stamina? Potentially, but it all comes down to each person and how they react to certain toys or stimulation.
Let’s look at a few ways of improving your sexual stamina that can make having sex even more fun.
Sex doesn’t need to end when one partner reaches orgasm. In fact, nowadays it’s considered common courtesy to help your partner reach orgasm as well, if that’s what they want.
And so if you find yourself in a situation where your lack of sexual stamina is becoming a problem, then your first impulse should be to be more generous in the bedroom.
If you orgasm quickly and one or both of you feel a bit disappointed, instead of feeling bad about something you can’t control very much, try to offer to give oral sex or play around with some other sex toys.
All of these things can lead to just as much sexual pleasure as traditional sex. Unfortunately, there are many cultural stigmas around using sex toys as a couple, or at all, for that matter.
The most important thing is for you and your partner to have a satisfying sexual relationship. And if you let your partner know that you’re going to try to increase your sexual stamina, then it can become a fun group project rather than a solo mission.
One of the leading causes of reaching orgasm quickly can be the sheer level of excitement you feel when involved in just about any kind of sexual activity.
For example, if you’ve been interested in someone romantically for a long time, then the first time you actually engage in any kind of sex with that person, you’re much more likely to reach orgasm quickly, solely based on your level of enjoyment.
So what does the other end of the spectrum look like?
Well, if you find yourself in a relationship, for example, and you have sex with your partner frequently, your level of excitement will probably be lower, at least in general.
The same idea can be applied to the experience of having sex in general. If you have sex more frequently, then you’ll be less likely to reach orgasm quickly.
But having sex regularly isn’t the only way to decrease your sexual excitement and therefore improve your sexual stamina.
Masturbation can also be a surefire way to decrease your physical and mental sensitivity to sexual activity.
There hasn’t been any official testing in this area, but many sex toy companies claim that if men use sex toys on a regular basis, they’ll be able to last longer in bed.
Why? Well, male sex toys like strokers can potentially make you more accustomed to the feelings of having sex.
And so when you actually do have sex with another person, you’ll be more accustomed to the sensations involved.
No one can guarantee that this will work every single time, and it’s sure to work differently for different people, but if other methods have been unable to decrease your sexual sensitivity, then it can definitely be a viable option to try out during your alone time.
But if you’re looking to increase your sexual stamina, then you don’t have to be left to your own devices. It’s the future, after all, and there are plenty of new technologies that can help you last longer in bed, even when you find yourself incredibly excited.
Delay sprays, like the Adam and Eve Marathon Delay Spray, are meant to numb many of the sensations you naturally feel during sexual activity of any kind.
In particular, these sprays and salves are meant to numb the head of the penis to a point where sex can still be enjoyable but you won’t be finishing up too early.
There are also specific brands of condoms that contain a similar substance, one that will activate once you’ve rolled the condom onto your genitals.
One the whole, these are potential solutions, and we definitely can’t say that the technology has been perfected quite yet.
But all that really means is that, if you have any curiosity in these sprays as a way of increasing your sexual stamina, you’ll have to try them out for yourself.
Products like these come with strict guidelines for usage, and these should be followed to the letter.
Try them out on your own as well as with a willing partner. You will soon find out whether such numbing gels work on you specifically and whether they let you enjoy sexual experiences as much as you would without it.
But there are also some relatively low-tech solutions for premature ejaculation. The cock ring is a staple of the sex toy industry, having gone through many different iterations through the decades.
The technology itself is actually quite old, potentially more than a hundred years old, to be more precise.
Their most popular use is for those dealing with erectile dysfunction in some form or another. There is a valve inside the penis that keeps blood in the penis during an erection.
As long as this valve is functioning properly, the erection can last. But if the valve fails, then the blood will drain from the penis, which is, after all, what is making it hard in the first place.
A cock ring performs the same basic function, cutting off blood flow into or out of the penis by cinching your genitals.
They tend to be made from rubber, but cock rings can also be metal or even plastic in some cases.
And while their main function is to help a man maintain his erection for longer, it can also help him last longer in bed.
This is mostly due to the fact that using a cock ring can have a slight numbing effect on your genitals. Users tend to focus more on the sensation of the toy on their penis than the sensations their penis is feeling at the moment.
Some cock rings are meant to only be used on the shaft of the penis, where they will be able to do their work well.
But there are also models that include another loop, to be placed around the user’s testicles.
This added feature can potentially add to the benefits of typical cock rings, but again, it really depends on each person and how they react to it.
If you find yourself in a relationship where a lack of sexual stamina is becoming a major issue, then a cock ring may be one of the least expensive and most effective ways to combat the problem.
Take a look at several different models and make sure to order the correct size. If you’re not sure of the correct size, you can simply order a pack that includes multiple sizes.
But apart from the physical component of sexual stamina, the psychological element is just as important.
Thinking about your sexual stamina during sex can actually decrease it, which is a bit of unfortunate irony. In fact, focusing on sex at all can bring you closer to orgasm.
This is the reasoning behind common techniques for distracting yourself during sex to increase your stamina: “Think about baseball, think about baseball.”
It may sound counterintuitive, but worrying less about your sexual stamina and dedicating less effort to improving it can actually help you improve.
So the next time you’re having sex and you’re worried about finishing early, instead focus on your partner, and how much you want to make them happy.
Even if you do reach orgasm quickly, you can still find many other ways to bring them pleasure. It’s important to keep this in mind.